“Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21).
If you were writing a newspaper article, you’d be sure to choose your words carefully. You’d even ask others to help edit what you wrote.
It is equally crucial to watch what you say when speaking to your husband or wife. Your words to your spouse can create feelings of joy, love, closeness, gratitude, and hopefully even radiant bliss. Your words can console, comfort, inspire, motivate, elevate.
Other words can create feelings of pain, distress, and anger.
-from Rabbi Zelig Pliskin’s book entitled “Marriage” – ArtScroll Publications, 1998, p. 137